For Hectic Moms – Tips To Make More Me-Time
5 Ideas on how to help your kids get used to change. And how they, too, can help others – and emerge as leaders
The TastyMoments team has become aware of how many people have had to make significant life adjustments recently. We need to try to reintroduce more of the happy-go-lucky attitudes of pre-COVID days – but under changed circumstances. Uncertainty can affect our little ones most. Here’s how you can help them to ensure a smooth transition.
Make them feel that they have a say when it comes to making decisions
Children will feel empowered and acknowledged if they are regularly updated on plans and potential decisions. Especially if these changes can be disruptive such as changing schools or suburbs. The best thing to do is to involve them right from the start. Be transparent and encourage them to talk about their feelings.
If, for example, they have to change schools, prepare them by taking them to the new school a week or so ahead of time – and preferably while school is in session. Make an arrangement with the headmistress or teacher and ask if you can bring your kid around at break. Show them where the restrooms are, the tuck shop, change rooms, sports fields, and so on. This way, they will feel more at ease on their first day. Or if they want to meet a few new friends, here are or some Friday night dinner ideas. A butternut soup starter served with Ital Pizza Minis will ensure that they have a couple of ready-made friends from day one!
Life deals everyone – yes, even Kim Kardashian – some challenging cards at times. Like the one that everyone looks up to, you must remain positive and upbeat. If your family sees that you are anxious, they, too, will become uptight. But if you stay calm and relaxed, they will soon see that there is nothing you – as a family – cannot overcome.
Allow your kid to be who they are – and let them lead
Not everyone is a born hockey or rugby player – or Shakespeare. If your youngster is more interested in fixing computers, participating in gaming competitions or flying drones, encourage them to take the lead in organising meetings, starting a club or producing blogs on their topic of interest. Let us celebrate our differences rather than be attached to outdated ideas about what constitutes success. Just think of the possibilities if you have an out of the box thinker like Elon Musk in your midst.
Life is an adventure
When change is in the air, it is the very best time to teach your family the meaning of the old saying: “You can’t discover new continents unless you are prepared to lose sight of the shore”. You have to be brave and take the next step.
A member of the TastyMoments team once travelled with her kids and arrived in a different country. All the luggage got lost during the journey. Those 2 days without anything but the clothes they were wearing (ok, they did buy some underwear) turned out to be the most fun, family experience. Let’s face it, it is not what happens to us in life that matters, but how we deal with it.
Be as consistent as you can
Stick to familiar routines, but only if they make sense. If things need to change to suit your new circumstances, call a family meeting and discuss. Take note of everyone’s point of view. Let them contribute their ideas and then together decide on the best way forward. This way, you can call upon their support in future. Agree on the division of tasks, draw up a schedule and get each person to sign it before a celebratory meal accompanied by yummy Hasselback potatoes and creamed spinach. This should stop Johnny from grumbling when next it’s his turn to do dishes.
Nothing ever progresses without change. So, use the opportunity to teach them that nothing stays the same forever. It is a precious life lesson.
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